RESTRAINING FROM GOING TO THE YELLOW AND RED ZONES

After recognizing your positive and negative patterns and learning to recover from Yellow and
Red Zones you are ready for the next step. It is the step of restraining. Now that you are aware
that some people push you into the Yellow Zone and some situations pull you into the Red Zone,
you can sit down and reflect upon all the ways in which you can handle these situations ifferently and restrain from entering the Yellow and Red Zones in the future. If you have reached a stage
of helplessness in life you might think that there is no way out and you are trapped but in reality
there are always different options and choices available to deal with a situation that you have
never thought of before. If you discuss your situation with dear friends you will be surprised how a different point of view can help you find new ways to deal with old problems.

1. One of my clients loves his brother but does not like his sister-in-law. He believes his brother married a ‘bitch’ who turns into a ‘witch’ when she is angry. To cope with that situation he meets his brother in a restaurant or a park or on the beach and avoids his sister-in-law. That is his Emotional Raincoat.
2. One of my female friends loves his sister but does not like his brother-in-law. She thinks her sister married a ‘jerk’ who turns into a ‘wolf’ when he is angry. Her Emotional Raincoat is her nephews and nieces. When the children are around the brother-in-law is respectful.
3. One of our colleagues realized that his mother made a lot of critical Red Zone comments to him when he saw her on his own but not when they were with family. Instantaneously he was able to bring their relationship into the Green by asking his sister and her family, with whom he had a Green Zone relationship, to join them when they got together.

After you have created Emotional Raincoats for different stressful situations you will be surprised how your number of hours in the Green Zone will increase and your number of hours in the Red Zone will be reduced resulting in a major change in your life. Many friends,
colleagues and clients have doubled their Green Zone Hours within a few weeks using these techniques.

RECOVERING FROM YOUR YELLOW AND RED ZONES

After recognizing the negative patterns the next step is learning to recover from your Yellow and Red Zones. It is a step towards empowering yourself and taking control of your own life. When you let someone push you into the Yellow Zone or let a situation pull you into the Red Zone, it means that you were vulnerable and you gave your power to that person or situation. But after you fall into a Red Zone ditch, it is your responsibility to recover and come back to your Green Zone. We are all human and we are all pushed into the Yellow or Red Zone from time to time but it is better to drive through the Yellow and Red Zone rather than park there for a long time.

Recovering from the Yellow and Red Zone might be as simple as taking some time off and relaxing or getting some support from a friend or a consultation with a wise woman or man. Your
dear ones can offer you the reassurance and support that you need but you may need to ask for it, as they cannot read your mind and heart. You have to call them or visit them or invite them and share your dilemma and ask their friendly advice. By doing so you will look after yourself and decrease your suffering.